Ettiquette


Is it ok to ask for money on my invitations?
				It is never appropriate to ask for money on the invitation. Suggest to your parents that they 'spread the word' discreetly. Many guests may take offence and feel pressured about the 'right' amount to give.

Do I really have to ask my boss?
				No, Considering the cost of weddings today your employer should respect your decision. However you might like to extend an invitation to the service. You can have seperate service ivitations printed with your wedding stationery.

Should we send invitations to those who are participating in our wedding? What about officials like members of the Clergy?
				Yes, send invitations to the bridesmaids and their partners. It's all about the gesture. Parents should also receive an invitation, if only to keep as a momento. It is not necessary to send invitations to officals. You may verbally invite members of the clergy and their spouse to the reception if you like.

We do not want young children as guests at our wedding. Should I convey this on the invitation?
				Generally, If the childrens' names are not on the invitation they are not invited. It is poor etiquette to add 'Adult Reception' or 'No Children under 12' on the invitation. You might like to think about providing a babysitter if there are several guests that fall into this category.

What is the correct wording for thank you notes?
				There is no 'proper' wording. The key is to write the note as though you were talking face to face with the person. Briefly describe the gift to show you know which one it was, be appreciative and then explain what you may do with it- Where you will put the vase or what you'll buy with the money.

My father passed away last year but I would still like to acknowledge him on our invitations. Is it ok and how would I do it?
				Naturally you would want to include him Your invitations could read: Maria Louise Jones Daughter of Margaret Jones and the late Marcus Jones and John Matthew Smith Son of Elizabeth and Jeremy Smith.